Saturday, March 26, 2011

Wedding Preparations

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Being a bride is a full-time job, especially when you’re getting married on a tight budget. Getting married on a tight budget means being your own wedding planner and florist. It means that everything else in your life,including your husband-to-be, is going to fall by the wayside as you get ready to be a wife. It means making a zillion phone calls, sending a zillion emails and wishing you had a private secretary to help you keep up with it all. It means hardly having time to eat, and being glad for an occasional can of Slim-Fast to keep you going.

I thought I was being very clever and saving a great deal of money by doing all the flowers myself. I ordered flowers wholesale through a local florist. I picked them up in several buckets the day before the wedding and carried them down the street to the chapel. When we should have been getting ready for the rehearsal dinner my mother and I were instead feverishly arranging enormous bouquets of flowers for the altar. I came to have the highest regard for the skills of florists. The altar looked beautiful when it was finally decorated, but I was exhausted.

As for the bouquets and floral headpieces for myself and the bridesmaids, as well as the corsages for the mothers and centerpieces for the tables at the wedding breakfast, I saved oodles of dollars by making them myself as well. I knew that there was no way I could make them all the day before the wedding, so I got started weeks before, using dried flowers, mostly roses and herbs, entwining them with ribbons and wire. My apartment had by that time become a workshop, where wedding presents and were stored as well as everything I needed for the wedding projects. It would have been nice to have a separate apartment just for wedding stuff.  

My sister Andrea was the matron-of-honor; I did not have her wearing a floral wreath on her head like the bridesmaids but a tartan Tam O’Shanter. Have I said that we were planning a Scottish wedding? My father was to wear his kilt in the MacLachlan tartan, and my sisters and I were to wear our tartan sashes. The sashes and the Tam had to be ordered directly from Scotland, as well as the brooches with the family crests, and so there was a great deal of running back and forth to the Scottish shop. In the meantime, four days before the wedding Andrea rebelled against wearing the Tam, saying that a Scottish friend told her that no woman in Scotland would wear such a thing to a wedding. I said I did not care what they did in Scotland, my wedding was a “Scottish Fantasy,” like Mendelssohn’s symphony. There was a heated argument. Luckily, we were speaking again by the wedding rehearsal. And she agreed to wear the Tam.

As for Michael the bridegroom (yes, it was his wedding, too) he refused to wear a kilt, which made the Scottish wedding fantasy even more of a fantasy. However, he looked handsome in his mourning suit. Because of our budget and the size of the chapel, only ninety people could be invited. Michael, however, wanted to fill the place to the rafters with his friends. He took matters into his own hand and began inviting people over the internet. So when the day of the wedding dawned, we had no idea how many would actually be there.

We had a caterer, a local woman who could whip up a hearty country breakfast for the ninety plus souls who were expected to show up.  We decided to serve a buffet because then it would not matter as much what the exact head count was. The caterer could also provide china and flatware. Budget constraints ruled out having crystal or even glassware and so we had to fall back on sipping champagne out of plastic flutes. Mercifully, my friend’s mother entertained a great deal and had enough large linen table cloths for the dozen or so tables. She also lent us her silver samovar for tea. I hoped that nothing would get lost or stolen.

Getting everything set up for the reception the night before the wedding gave new meaning to the word hectic. What made it worse is that a local lady, whose name ironically was "Joy," decided to “help” and ended up arguing with me about how to arrange the wedding breakfast. I wanted to scream. Looking back, I should have put my foot down more. However, the hall was lovely when we finished. We decorated the windows with white tulle and fresh ivy trailing down. The centerpieces were in place on the linen tablecloths. All I had to do when I went home that night was pray that the cake would be delivered on time. (It was.)

Have I mentioned my gown? It was made by an Italian dressmaker in the village of Mt. Airy who excelled at patternless sewing. She created a gown for me based upon a picture from a magazine of a Victorian bride. She knew exactly how much tulle and Thai silk to use. It was everything I wanted: simple, elegant and traditional. Later I had the train made into a christening  gown for our baby daughter.

 Yes, preparing for a wedding, even under the best circumstances, can be stressful. It is important to remember that it is only one day and that what really counts is the married life that lies ahead. What held me together amid the flurry of activity was seizing a few moments of quiet time whenever I could. Also, taking vitamins kept me healthy, not to mention those liquid meals by Slim-Fast. At least when I walked down the aisle, I looked the part of the radiant bride and had the energy I needed to enjoy my day of days.

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90 comments:

Karianna said...

Ah, beautiful! I remember how stressful my wedding was - and now that my brother is getting married this summer, I know I need to shape up.

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Georgette said...

I remember when Beth went to y'all's wedding, she went on and on that it was the most beautiful one she'd ever seen! The details were exquisite, as I remember she said, and yes, I can see from your post that they were. Martha Stewart herself would have been speechless, I think.

I LOVE the idea of making the baby's christening gown from your wedding gown train--it is like something from a poem! May God bless you and your groom and little daughter, always!

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Gloria Richards said...

It's been almost fifty years since I was married, but I remember the day well...an experience akin to a day with the Keystone Cops. And I know I was much thinner then.

Jen said...

Great story. I will one day be a DIY bride, making everything from my bouquets to my cake toppers. It's daunting! Not to mention losing weight. Maybe that's why I keep putting off saying "yes."

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shala_darkstone said...

I was lucky for my wedding that my Mom is a pastor and walked me through everything!
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Jeanentt said...

I am a 41 year old working mother of three who gets up every weekday morning at 5 a.m. and runs seven miles. I also do strength traing with weights and watch what I eat. I'm more fit now than I was in my twenties and I still feel like I'm in my twenties not to mention everyone says I still look like I'm in my twenties.

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peg42 said...

Weddings can be so stressful. I remember trying to keep my weight down for that special day.
Now, (many years later) I'm back to trying to get weight off.
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sweepmom said...

Yes, weddings can be very stressful, especially when you do all the work yourself or with very little help. That was the case for me as well. All the stress paid off though. My wedding was great!

Peace Love and Pets said...

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buzzd said...

Weddings can be stressful. I want to lose weight so I am watching what I eat and try to walk more

Deborah said...

I suppose I have to really be thankful that for me, wedding planning was simple and easy. I guess I was too young and dumb to understand all that could have gone wrong. I enjoyed reading your story and was pleased that everything turned out so well.

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sodahoney said...

i was calm at my wedding but my 2 daughters wedding stressed me out.

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MOMFOREVERANDEVER said...

would love to rethink my ways of portions and eating

clc408 said...

Your wedding sounds lovely! I have a goal to drop ten pounds before my vacation in July.

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Emily Erin said...

While it sounds like it was stressful, I'm glad that you got the wedding you wanted! And I also LOVE the idea of having a Christening dress made from the train of your dress. Beautiful!

Princess Golden Hair said...

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KaHolly said...

As I age, I'm trying harder to live a healthier and longer life.

Aron said...

I am in awe of the pic of you and your wedding dress! I am speechless--and as my friend would tell you, that does not often happen, lol! Not only is your gown incredible, but you look Incomparable! I'll have to e-mail you a pic of my mom on her wedding day in 1962... :)
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rubymoon said...

You have such wonderful ideas and such great creative spark. What lovely memories you are creating. Best of luck in life. Kudos also for getting fit and healthy!

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Erica C. said...

I always exercise more often before a big event...I should try this too!

sy said...

congratulations :D my friend is also preparing for her wedding and it's very stressful, so much to organize.

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msrodeobrat said...

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~dab said...

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Ashley said...

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Nancy said...

Your wedding sounds like it was beautiful. It seems as though we could all use more energy and healthy habits on a daily basis, not just for the big events.

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sksweeps said...

Wow! I'm impressed at everything you managed to do yourself! We got married at the house we had just closed escrow on (obviously couldn't afford anything else), I made my dress, didn't have a huge crowd, but did buy a cake and flowers. Yes, stressful!

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a5e5c448-6ab1-11e0-90a3-000bcdcb471e said...

I am also planning my wedding right now, so I know what it's like! Keep on truckin'!

marylou3285 said...

being the mother of the groom I need to look good so I don't embarass anyone.....been cutting carbs and Iam getting closer...ya

AEKZ2 said...

Let's all shape up together! I recently signed up for a fitness class and I'm loving it.

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Valeen said...

I am definitely trying to eat healthier and be more active. Not only to be a better mom, but to teach my kids by example! Then I want to go on a celebration vacation to celebrate our healthier family!

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shiloh said...

Weddings should be filled with fun and laughter, usually we are too stressed to do either. I had to blow dry my hair on the way, by hanging my head out the car window.

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bdiane34 said...

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Your wedding sounds lovely!
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Trisha D said...

i forgot everything on my wedding day, but 16 years later at least he knew what kind of forgetful wife he was gonna get!!

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willdebbie said...

I was in a dear friends wedding recently and I was more stressed over this than when I myself got married
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susansmoaks said...

our sixth anniversary is this month and i would love to trim up for our night out on the town
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Jinxy and Me said...

I had a wedding on a budget too since we paid or it ourselves. It was stressful, but also a lot of fun!

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Margie said...

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shelley said...

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Betty C said...

You have my utmost admiration! I wore a borrowed dress; my fiance did all the planning because I was attending college out of town and I just showed up for the event. Very low key, only family at the wedding and a small reception for close friends.

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Shawna said...

I’m going on a trip to Hawaii in a few months & I’ve been working out and eating better to loose weight and tone up so I can look good in my bathing suit.

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Atreau said...

Congratulations!

I'm currently single but have weddings to attend this year and that's one of the best way to meet men right? My parents actually met at a wedding. So, I need to be in fighting shape for these weddings.

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